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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You PPs are totally and completely insane. The circumstances are as I put them. She’s a user and a liar; I know the rule is to pile on OP, but that changes nothing. [/quote]

I think what you’re not getting is that NONE of the circumstances that are apparently so triggering to you amount to anything. That is why people think you sound insane. So far we have:

- goes grocery shopping a lot and wants certain brands
- lets 11 year old child stay up late 
- [b]never married child’s father; complains about father
- takes ubers
- lets daughter have bedroom in rent controlled apartment
- gets daughter financial aid for private school
- does not want to lose rent controlled apartment[/b]

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Can someone quote where OP explains the bold? I can’t find it anywhere and I swear I’ve tried![/quote]

I’ve looked too and can’t find it. Very confusing.  
[/quote]i believe it was deleted after she called a pp a pos [/quote]

She called several posters POSs, basically everyone who didn't agree with her, which was about 50% of posters after her first post and all of them after her second post. Possibly she asked to have the second post deleted because it's the one that moved the needle from "questionable" to "oh yeah she's the terrible one." 😂

To sum up the deleted post, she's salty because:

1) GF accepted a ring (OP is [i]very[/i] concerned about the ring) without a fixed wedding date;
2) GF's daughter gets financial aid  to attend a private school across town, and spends money on ubers to get there;
3) GF was not willing to give up her one-bedroom rent-controlled apartment in order to move into a bigger place with brother. Brother got a market-rate apartment in the same building instead;
4) GF gave her daughter the one bedroom in their apartment and slept on the sofa. OP seems to think this is a sign of how spoiled the child is, instead of a completely normal arrangement that most good parents in that situation emulate.
5) Oh, and she feels that GF was deceitful for not clearly and loudly stating that she was never married to the child's father. Of course, she never said she was -- but somehow she's a liar because OP had assumed that they'd been married. 
6) Also, brother has had a series of past girlfriends who were "better" than this one in terms of jobs etc. Somehow this is relevant.

I don't think OP is actually Gilmore Girls-style Old Money, but her lack of understanding regarding how rent-controlled apartments work in NYC, and what is typical for a single parent in a 1-bedroom, makes me think she's at least UMC and appalled by the GF who is from a lower SES. There's been zero evidence that that this woman is a liar and ample evidence that OP has some serious class-related enmity against GF, who she perceives as trashy. The good news is that brother doesn't seem to particularly care what his judgey family thinks.

Regardless, it's been an entertaining thread. I wish the brother and his new family the best![/quote]

I love your summary!  Thank you!

I would love it if there was a summary tab in the forum where subject matter experts like you could write up the most interesting ones!  [/quote]

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