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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For most college-educated people, doesn't this work itself out?  Your pool of partners who you are naturally exposed to are other college-educated people.  If you're a high energy person, you find other high energy people.   I was never attracted to the guys who sat around their mother's basements or never wanted to go anywhere or do anything or who were generally under achieving.  Were any of you?

I never gave a thought to whether my husband was rich, would be rich, etc.  We were pretty young when we met.

I do, however, think people are naive about how much harder life is worrying about money all the time.[/quote]

You can’t just filter for high energy or whatever. My DH had a STEM from an Ivy, and we married in grad school, but he was idealistic and wanted to do “meaningful” work (think environmental startups, educational technology, climate tech) and the only people who make money from they are founders (and DH is smart and works hard but is not hard nosed and ruthless enough for business).

You need to get someone who is focus on the money, and is a bit hard edged to elbow their way up the ladder. I wish I had; I thought DH was nice and we would be comfortable on his technical salary, but costs have far outstripped his earnings. [/quote]

OP here. To the PP's saying marry within your circle and you will be ok. Well, I did. I met DH at a prestigious post grad internship where I thought ok. If he can get into this program, he is going places. He is decent and a kind man but he is a dreamer and an idealist. He doesn't care for money.

Well 10 years later. Money matters A LOT. I am angry and bitter.[/quote]

Your situation is far more common than people want to acknowledge or admit.

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