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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband left me for a woman 10 years younger. [b]She is very close to a younger version of myself.[/b] Bizarre. Anyway, my kids were/are devastated. I'm fine.[/quote]

This is such a *thing*. I have known multiple men who have left women for just younger versions of the exact same woman. And I don't mean just in appearance. I mean similar personalities, similar life goals, same jobs. It is very obvious and I am always confused why the younger woman doesn't see it. It would freak me out if my fiancé recently divorced my older doppelgänger. They must not see it, right?

But yeah, in most cases the ex wife is happy to wash their hands of him. The one case where I feel like the divorce was really hurtful to the ex was a couple I know who had fertility issues for years (and she really, really wanted a baby) and he left her for a younger version of her, who immediately had a baby. That was absolutely devastating. I still get mad just thinking about it.
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I've found this to be true, too. We weren't married (pretty young, mid 20s) but in a LTR 3y+ and I'd told him I wanted to graduate from university before getting married. When HE kept bothering me trying to come back and date him again I snapped at him to stop trying to make her dress/act/pick up my old hobbies (she had the audacity to complain to me that he would do this to me). I promptly told her what was going on after the 2nd-3rd time he asked me to get back together while they were dating. She was 17-18 and still in high school when they first got together, which was ~3-4y younger than him and I think it is too much that young. She was a copy of myself, basically, if I had become an alcoholic at age 15. Her parents even had the same professions as mine.

It was weird he'd told her he had a problem with my weight, which is something his alcoholic mother used to harp about, going so far as to smack food out of my hands. I'm 5'6, was a max of 110lbs and in varsity sport at the time. She was ~2" shorter and lighter when he started cheating on me with her from being in track relative to me at that point. She married him anyway a couple years later and they are now both heavy and not very successful.

She gained weight as soon as she left high school just like I did because we weren't getting daily gym class+competitive athletics and y'know, aged a little bit. I think women fill out a bit more, naturally, at 23-25 and that's ok. It was going from 110lb to 115-120ish sort of thing for me.

Really, she looks like me but behaviorally is more like his mom than I ever was and looks more like his mom with age. I think part of his weight thing was a hang up of his from having been overweight in MS, his mother's behavior and an entitlement issue from when he used to look good as a star athlete (back when we dated). I don't think he'd be able to find anyone as attractive as her by the time they married-he'd gained at least 50-70lb and was balding by then.

Idk. I thankfully got over the very temporary hang up about my weight and married someone else ages ago who is as successful and athletic as I am who doesn't complain that my Greek salad with feta is "too many calories" while he gorges on pizza or complains when I make more than he does. Life is too short to waste time on people like that and I'm grateful I dodged that bullet.

I feel so badly for the woman with fertility issues, though. [/quote]

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