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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I am not as bad a person as y'all think I am, goodness. I was raised to get an education but then to take care of a house and home. I cooked meals and kept a spotless house every single day for my husband who worked long hours at a law firm. Many of his co workers, male and female, said they wished they had a wife life me or some of the women said they would like to do what i was doing. We were a single income family happily. He did make a lot of money so I didn't "have" to work. It worked for us. A year after I got married, my mother was diagnosed with cancer. I took care of her for close to 10 years. I put off having children the last few years of her life because of that. I sat by her bedside, cooked her meals, changed her bandages after brain surgery, made her doctor's appointments, dealt with her insurance,[b] so all of you who think I sat around and took my husband's money are dead wrong.[/b] Cultural relativism works inside the US, too. We tried for children for almost 3 years so that caused further delays, and during that time my father was diagnosed.  So ALL i know how to do, or want to do, is take care of people I love.  My boyfriend and I get along great I just wonder if we can make it because of our differences and his lack of money management. I am not a snob, nor lazy. No, I do not want to work outside the home but if that's what I had to do to put my food in my child't mouth, I would.  To those that had helpful comments, thank you. [/quote]

But OP, you [i]did[/i] take your husband's money. I'm not saying there weren't extenuating circumstances, but you did simply rely on his income your entire adult life, basically. Some of us have had to take care of people AND work.[/quote]

Yep. My mother cared for my ailing grandparents who lived with us, raised two kids, AND held down a management level job in IT. It's great that OP did that, but people do it and work full time. Lots of people. Look at this site alone. You aren't some sort of unsung hero, OP, you're a very privileged person who lived a sheltered life. [/quote]

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