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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I am not as bad a person as y'all think I am, goodness. I was raised to get an education but then to take care of a house and home. I cooked meals and kept a spotless house every single day for my husband who worked long hours at a law firm. Many of his co workers, male and female, said they wished they had a wife life me or some of the women said they would like to do what i was doing. We were a single income family happily. He did make a lot of money so I didn't "have" to work. It worked for us. A year after I got married, my mother was diagnosed with cancer. I took care of her for close to 10 years. I put off having children the last few years of her life because of that. I sat by her bedside, cooked her meals, changed her bandages after brain surgery, made her doctor's appointments, dealt with her insurance, so all of you who think I sat around and took my husband's money are dead wrong. Cultural relativism works inside the US, too. We tried for children for almost 3 years so that caused further delays, and during that time my father was diagnosed.  So ALL i know how to do, or want to do, is take care of people I love.  My boyfriend and I get along great I just wonder if we can make it because of our differences and his lack of money management. I am not a snob, nor lazy. No, I do not want to work outside the home but if that's what I had to do to put my food in my child't mouth, I would.  To those that had helpful comments, thank you. [/quote]

You sound like a good person, OP. DCUM is a harsh crowd, don't let them get to you. Good luck in figuring things out, wishing you the best.[/quote]

+1. OP, you sound like you're trying to do the right thing here. You do sound a bit sheltered and naive. I posted earlier that you should take this time to focus on you and your son and that your bf sounds like a bad idea because he's extremely co-dependent at best. No need to defend your past; just focus on your future.

In response to your original question: Drop the guy. You have a son and you don't need to add in a grown man so irresponsible that he needs you to manage his finances and his whole life other than his construction work. I mean this gently, but you have some growing up to do. Plan out how to ensure a good life for you and your son, and grow up without a significant other until you're comfortable standing on your own two feet. You're now faced with gaining the maturity and independence that many women gained in their 20's. I'm rooting for you and I think you can do this. Take care.[/quote]

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