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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Experience gifts don’t make sense in UMC circles. It’s not like the kids would be paying for their ice cream/museum/movie entry anyway. The parents would. My kids don’t care if you pay or I do - it’s free to them either way.[/quote]

This, to an extent. One year, my parents told my kids (age 9 and 11 at the time) that they would take them out to lunch as part of their present. My kids don’t love “lunch” food. Eating out for lunch is not a treat. It is a chore for when we are traveling or shopping/running errands all day.

It never even happened. My parents offered once or twice on days we had other commitments. Kids didn’t miss it.[/quote]

I don't know, my UMC kids love going out to lunch at Panera and consider it a treat (ages 5 and 7). They'd think lunch out with Grandma was an awesome gift. [/quote]

Agree PP. The above post made me very sad. The money spent on lunch is not necessarily the experience; it's the special time with grandparents.[/quote]

I’m the poster whose kids weren’t interested in lunch. It made me sad, too. But my parents used to do much more active things with the kids. Now that they are older, my parents aren’t really sure what to do with them. They have an even harder time talking with them. My dad, in particular, tends to launch into dense monologues on topics he thinks will interest the kids. He never asks them about their interests, their activities, their friends... his little talks might be interesting to a 17 year old super intellectual, but for tween girls, it’s deadly (frankly, I struggle with it at times).

So lunch out with the grandparents = food you might not like + a few random lectures. My parents were great with little kids (and PP, at 5 and 7 my kids would have loved it too), but my tweens (now teens) need more structure/stimulation.[/quote]

Wow, your kids are tweens/teens and "don't like lunch food" so don't want to eat lunch with their grandparents? They need more structure/stimulation than that? WTF? And yes, I get that aging grandparents can be a bit of a drag and not know all the cool teen things, but maybe your kids could just talk to them about their lives and interests? Sorry, but you and your kids sound like a-holes.[/quote]

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