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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I assume your wife and the OM still work together, correct?  A risk in telling the other spouse - and I saw it play it in my office - is that she calls the employer and gets them involved and then all bets are off, with termination being a possibility.  Depending on your financial situation, consider this and the other ways in which you lose control of things once you involve the other spouse.  I’ve also seen a spouse shame her husband and the OW by name on social media.  Lots to think about and sorry you are in this spot.[/quote]

All of this. OP, you have too much to lose by telling the other spouse. As others have mentioned, she may already know and not care, but if she does care, this could blow up quite publicly. You have to think about your financial security and the well-being of your children. Revenge, however sweet, is not worth it.

Another point is that telling the other spouse sometimes backfires. The drama of the conflict may heighten the excitement they get from the affair--them against the world, ya know?

If your spouse is serious about fixing the marriage, she needs to quit her job as soon as possible, cut all ties with her AP, and get intensive therapy.[/quote]

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