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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The fact that your DH’s ex has depression makes this a million times worse.  Worse for the children.  So, they spend one week with their mom who is sick, devastated, and justifiably angry.  (Fierce props to her for holding her boundaries and not allowing your DH one inch to further disrupt the lives of her children.) She sounds like a good mom in many ways, but it can’t be easy living in that house of sadness, abandonment, and grief.

So then the childrenget to switch to your house, where they share their time with their dad with YOU and your three kids.  It’s insane.

Why did you get married so quickly?  What was the rush?!?!?  Please don’t be pregnant.

For the record, I started dating my DH when his DD was 14 and her parents had been split for 3 years.  It still made her life much worse that I was in the picture.  She got less of her dad than she deserved.  We deliberately waited until
She graduated HS to get married, and it was STILL really really hard for her to then have us buy a house together and be a family without her when she went away to college.  She didn’t ask for any of that.  But my God, at least we have her sometime to grow up a little, and at least she has many years with her dad before I was with him manynof his weekends with her.

[b]The more I think about it, the more it seems like marrying so quickly and trying to “blend” so quickly is even worse than the infidelity.[/b]

Glad you are thinking of changing the custody schedule at least.  [/quote]

Rushing to marry and "blend" reeks of the insecurity that it is. They rush so the man doesn't have a chance to think it through and change his mind. Immediately following our divorce, my ex husband's former AP attempted to do this as well, and boy oh boy did it blow up in her face. Before they made it to the alter, she soon found out that she was cheatable too. That relationship fizzled, as did every single one that followed. My ex was incapable of being faithful to anyone. [/quote]

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