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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm going to be completely honest, if I was your wife and you laid all of this out for me, if would be so alienating to hear that you don't really care that we don't spend much time together outside the bedroom. I imagine it would be very hurtful that your primary interest in me as a partner is as a warm body for you to stick your penis in, and beyond that I'm largely irrelevant except to the extent that I also fawn over all of your contributions to stroke your ego. I mean, you note the lack of conversation but don't include it in your list of things you want, and that speaks volumes.[/quote]

OP here.  This is a fair assessment and yes it does speak volumes.  Not trying to make an excuse but maybe that's the difference in needs between a man and a woman.  Conversation would be great but that's a bonus to me.[/quote]

+1000. Amazing (actually, not really) how many DCUM women refuse to recognize and acknowledge how fundamentally differently men and women define a happy marriage [/quote]

It is amazing (actually, not really) how many DCUM men refuse to recognize and acknowledge how fundamentally offensive it is that men care more about having sex than having a conversation with their wife. The OP straight up admits that conversation is an added bonus but not the thing he actually cares about.

If I found out that my husband thought about me that way, the absolute last thing I would want to do is have more sex with him. You can sit here and talk about sexual connection as being essential to a healthy marriage until the sun goes down, but that the OP and several of the presumably male posters on this thread care more about having sex with their wives than talking to them is offensive as hell. Do your wives know how little you think of them as people, or do you not have wives because your attitude is so off-putting to women?[/quote]

news flash. you husband does think this way, he is just smooth enough to not let you know that.  Pretty much all straight, married men would rather have sex than conversation.  This doesn't make them assholes this is just how most men are wired.  I am a feminist but even I don't pretend that men are anything other than what they are.  Women continue to think that men are some kind of magical creatures and they arent that complicated.[/quote]

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