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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH won me over with effort. Now married for 10 years with 3 kids. Don’t think I can be in this loveless passionless dead marriage any longer. I am childcare. We talk about child logistics and that’s it. I’m so resentful. I gave up my lucrative career to stay home. DH takes me for granted. I seriously cannot stand my husband and feel totally stuck. Yesterday I told him I want out and he just brushed me off [b]and said he was the best I could do[/b].

I want to run away and restart. Then I look at my children’s sweet faces and can’t leave.[/quote]

That was not nice of him but there is a grain of truth. Do you think that men are just waiting to have serious relationships with single mothers?
You think that grass is greener elsewhere?
You think you can be in honeymoon stage forever with someone else?

This is what's wrong with our society. The inability to stick with anything long term is driven by a constant need for novelty, stimulations, and feeling of euphoria - social media heavily capitalized on these shallow feelings in form of "likes" - this does not work in real life. Get a grip. There is no "great beyond" your marriage, or anyone else's for that matter. There is no point in serving one's ego and vanity at the expense of yore children, financial security, and established companionship (no matter how "boring").[/quote]

No.
My divorce was driven by me being done living with an unappreciative do-nothing husband who didn’t know how to be a respectful spouse, and effective parent or take care of his property. He was in way over his head and couldn’t handle anything. His untreated ADHD made it worse, he only focused in work. He could barely listen to his kids talk, his mind would be floating around who knows where. Never present.

I could no longer be in the loveless marriage with the farthest thing from a life partner I could imagine. Disappointments all the time. Arguments then pursued, name calling resentment and it was over. No underlying issues got fixed or treated. He still takes zero personal responsibility for anything. The day I decided I was done was the most clarity and peace I had in years. The rest was execution of the divorce. Kids were young enough not to be angry or confused, though we’ll talk through things once their start asking.  Party day with dad is every other weekend, he’s working 70+ hours during the week. He’s likely killing it at work now that he really has nil responsibilities in the home front. [/quote]

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