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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Step One - get your career going again and get a nanny that helps with the kids.  See if it helps the marriage - if it doesn't, then at least you will be ready to stand on your own two feet[/quote]

This is the most sane advice, rather than trying to sparkle yourself up into a gem he can't afford to lose, get your career back.

He's an ass to say he's the best you can do. It's also kind of gaslighty since he had to woo you in the first place. 
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OP here. DH earns around 2m per year. We were both graduate students when we started dating. He was humble and kind, hardworking and had lots of potential. Now he is a self important prick.[/quote]

I didn’t read all the advice yet.  First and foremost realize if he is being an a$$ to you now  and taking you for granted, he will pass on that attitude to your children.  I remember meeting a woman who said her husband said something similar or even more disrespectful and her teenage son was mirroring the dad.  She finally had enough and divorced and was able to work her way up at her new job, has a long term boyfriend etc.

I’m not saying you need to stay with him or divorce him, I am saying don’t be a martyr and expect someone is going to put you up for sainthood.  If you decide to stay, not go back to work, realize worst case is your kids don’t appreciate the sacrifice, your DH ends up leaving the marriage anyway and screwing you out of a fair settlement, you have to get a job again in your mid 40’s and downsize your lifestyle, you don’t meet anyone else but you still think it was worth it because of x or worth taking that risk because of y.  So you actually did get something out of it that made it worth it to you.

Good luck.[/quote]

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