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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Something very similar happened to my daughter when she was 11 years old. We were new to this area and soon she befriended a very sweet and very popular girl.  About a year into the friendship my daughter was 100% sure she would be invited to the girl's birthday. She wasn't invited, and it sucked. My daughter was really heartbroken.  The thing is that this girl was the world to my daughter because it was her doorway to friends and acceptance in a new place. But the reality was that this girl had a lot of lifelong friends who she felt closer to and invited them to her birthday.  The girl was never mean or unkind to my daughter, she was kind and accepting, but their perspectives were different at the time because of each girl's personal story. I was sad for may daughter, but I explained about longer friendships, that in life she wouldn't be invited to everything, and that it was part of life.  We had a mom and daughter day instead, we went to the movies and shopping and then for a nice dinner.  I would have never dreamed of complaining about it. This family didn't owe us anything and it was the girl's birthday, her special day and she chose her most special friends. Fast forward 5 years later and my daughter and this girl are inseparable.  Their friendship has grown every year, they both have a wonderful group of close friends. The next birthday my daughter was invited because the relationship had grown. I understand why OP didn't invite the new girl.  He daughter is not very close to her. But the neighbor's mom needs to back up and be a parent.  Complaining about it is not going to strengthen the bond these two girls are slowly forming, only time and does that. [/quote]

Np: thank you for this perspective and I think you handled it wonderfully! [/quote]

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