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[quote=Anonymous]DH here.  I kind of agree that I don't think sex wasn't the end goal here.  It was to get your husband to help out when he doesn't usually, which is fine, but  these are two separate things in my opinion.  My wife says we never have time for sex but she has time to do a million other things.  So to me that means she doesn't want sex.  If you want something to happen, you can make it happen full stop.

Also, if I were your husband in this scenario, I would have not seen anything that indicated that you wanted to have sex.  A text earlier in the day is great, but if I were him all I would see is you doing the same stuff that you do every night.  IE you texted saying you want to have sex and then proceeded to everything status quo with no indication of wanting to have sex. Next time when you get home say "I am really horny and want you to take me but in order for that to happen I really need you to do these things for us.  If you can't/don''t I really won't have the time or energy to have great sex with you".  If he still doesn't do anything then he just doesn't care about having sex with you.  Not trying to be mean, but if it was spelled out to him clearly and he didn't follow through that would be how I would read it.

Also, as an aside, I have been a doing all of the things that you wished he would do for years and I have very little if any sex with my wife, so if you are doing it once every few weeks he might just not feel like its worth it to help out the way you want him to.  Not in a mean way, but he may be doing a cost benefit of doing the things you want him to vs. doing what he needs for himself and just saying screw it, its not worth it for me.  That's where I am, I still help out and we are a good team for the most part, but I do that mostly for the sake of the kids.  I just don't really care to help out like I used to because I end up in the same place regardless at the end of the day.  Maybe that is where he is mentally, checked out.  Good luck, this stuff sucks.
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