Reply to doing our own thing as a family for Christmas and my parents are being their usual selves

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "doing our own thing as a family for Christmas and my parents are being their usual selves"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When she complains, tell her it's not too late for them to cancel and reassure her that it's totally fine with you if they cancel. Otherwise, when she complains say, "You know, Mom, we are hoping for a relaxing, stress-free week. No complaining, no worrying, no stress."  Repeat as often as necessary and cut her off with this when she starts complaining. [/quote]

+another.

In the future, if she says that sounds like fun and suggests they tag along, just respond, "Sorry Mom.  We decided we need to have a quiet vacation with just us." and suggest an alternate time for them to come to visit you.  The key is to offer an alternative visit with the grandkids while excluding them from coming along.  If you can tolerate it suggest that they come New Year's, MLK weekend or similar to come and visit at your home where they can be the main feature of the visit.  And definitely make sure you do not give details of your trip.  So say you're going to the Caribbean without telling her which island.  Or if you have to tell her which island, do not mention which resort/hotel.

Going forward from this, tell her that you originally planned this vacation as a way to get away and relax and if it isn't relaxing for her, then it isn't too late to cancel and instead schedule a visit to you at home after the holidays when they can have a nicer less stressful and more enjoyable visit with the grandkids doing things the way she prefers.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics