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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What do you mean? An attraction? Flirty friendship? Texts and emails exchanged?[/quote]

OP here:  She's starting to talk about a coworker every day.  I know him - he's a tall, built, good looking guy.  I noticed that they have quite a few texts going back and forth with lots of jokes about work and have lunch together multiple times a week.  We have lunch together about once every two weeks.  The texts haven't crossed the line but lots of jokes and rainbows, unicorns, funny memes that I sent her, etc.

We have a good marriage if not always exciting.[/quote]

Tell her you are uncomfortable now before you hold it all in and build a wall of tension.[/quote]

This...and if she calls you out on jealousy...then she's hiding something.  She should respect your decision.

Beyond that, not much you can do, she's going to do what she does.  She has to make a decision what is more important, your marriage or her tingles.

If you communicate up front you don't like the tone of the conversations and you're firm and honest, she should respect that.  If not - hit the gym and work on your game...[/quote]

I would actually be really mad if my husband was upset with me having a male friend and accused me of being inappropriate. I would be careful on how to talk to her about it.

It would be best to use "I" statements instead of telling her how she's wrong. Say "I am feeling jealous/worried when you text and hang out with Bob all the time." This allows her the opportunity to apologize and try to make things right. Do Not say "You are flirting with Bob and it is wrong and you will ruin our marriage." This would immediately put her on the defensive ("It is not wrong to text my friends!") and make her less likely to address the problem. [/quote]

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