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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What do you mean? An attraction? Flirty friendship? Texts and emails exchanged?[/quote]

OP here:  She's starting to talk about a coworker every day.  I know him - he's a tall, built, good looking guy.  I noticed that they have quite a few texts going back and forth with lots of jokes about work and have lunch together multiple times a week.  We have lunch together about once every two weeks.  The texts haven't crossed the line but lots of jokes and rainbows, unicorns, funny memes that I sent her, etc.

We have a good marriage if not always exciting.[/quote]

Tell her you are uncomfortable now before you hold it all in and build a wall of tension.[/quote]

This...and if she calls you out on jealousy...then she's hiding something.  She should respect your decision.

Beyond that, not much you can do, she's going to do what she does.  She has to make a decision what is more important, your marriage or her tingles.

If you communicate up front you don't like the tone of the conversations and you're firm and honest, she should respect that.  If not - hit the gym and work on your game...[/quote]

I'm already pretty fit and probably wouldn't change much if I were single.[/quote]

If that's the case, ensure your SMV and economic viability are higher than his, and comparable or higher than your wife's.  She's going to do what she's going to do, being overprotective isn't going to sway her mind if she's already thinking about having an affair.   Tell her when you think the communication between her and her guy friend is appropriate and tell her to stop.  Do not confront him or even acknowledge he's a threat otherwise he'll co wider you weak and move in, it's a move I've done before.  As soon as the husband acknowledged me as a threat...I pounced and she was receptive.

In other words, keep being the best man, father and husband you can be..you do you boo[/quote]

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