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[quote=Anonymous]I WOULD LOSE MY MIND.

We keep our dishwasher empty though -- if it is clean and you have a dish, unload it, don't put the dish in the sink.

Everyone has their pet peeves. This would absolutely make me insane. For me, dishes in the sink tends to lead to "broken window" syndrome (which I know has been debunked on crime, but it's totally true in keeping my house clean).

1. No dishes in the sink. 
2. Bed made daily
3. Laundry put away, no clothes strewn on furniture/floor/clean laundry waiting in a basket.

If those 3 things happen consistently, our house stays tidy. When one of those things goes, it is a quick descent down to messy town.

My husband didn't do any of those 3 things naturally when we got married, but luckily I married someone who is easy going and willing to try things I tell him are important to me. He told me after a few years of being married and seeing how his brother lives (him and his wife are borderline hoarders, but a lot of the mess stems from not taking care of things when they first come up), that he feels like his life is way better and easier now with those habits.

Now, as to how to change it... for me, the only things that work with getting DH to change a behavior are 1) Being super extra nice about it, not naggy or bitchy, and just sincerely telling him it would mean a lot to me and 2) Giving him time. He does change and adapt to my suggestions, but it can take him months and the more I push, the more he pushes back. Asking once and then letting it go for at least a few months is key with my husband. We both had to come to realizations about the best way to keep our household & marriage happy, and after several years of that learning, the process sped up because we both moved towards the middle versus our natural approach (me demanding, him resisting). [/quote]

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