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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP again. I was so chilled by your description, I forgot to say that we keep contact with his mom to a minimum. Luckily she's not interested in our kids. I think you should draw strong boundaries and keep your distance, OP. This is serious personality disorder stuff.[/quote]

Thankfully we usually only see her about once a year, twice at the most.

She's just so bizarre. I always thought my perception of her was just skewed due to all of the issues I have with her, but my DH thinks she's weird, and it recently came out in conversation with another friend that she thinks my mom is pretty strange, too.[/quote]

Yes, my husband always saw his mom as normal too. He accepted the whole package of denial and twisted unreality, and spent his life repeating and living out everything she'd told him--about how amazing she was, how bad and weak he was, how she was always right and he was always wrong and he could never do enough to deserve her love and approval, etc. As a child, you naturally believe what your parents say and do is real, and that it's normal. What else do you know?

Luckily, it sounds as if you're catching on earlier than my husband did, and you're open to hearing others validate that it's not you, it's HER. This helps. My husband needed to hit rock bottom in his life and do tons of therapy work before he could start parsing out the reality from his mom's thorough control over him. He says it's like he was brainwashed all his life, and now it's so obvious.

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