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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a father of two, only one of them being my biological child. I cannot help but feel more attached to my biological child. We all know they need the same amount of love, but at times I find myself giving more to my biological child (which is unfair to the other).[/quote]

This last post is, in my view, the most honest statement I have ever read on the topic.  I am in the process of adopting a baby girl.  The woman I have called "mom" from the age of 3 until today is not biologically related to me.  She married my father when I was just a baby and had 5 biological children with him.  I love her very dearly and I know she loves me as well.  When I started the process to adopt my baby girl, I asked my mom whether the love one has for a biological child is comparable to the love one has for an adopted child.  Her answer was "it is not the same".  When I heard that and for few weeks thereafter, I felt a pinch in my heart.  Over the months however, and as I got better educated about adoption, I came to understand why my mom answered my question the way she did.

Thank you to the previous poster for being honest with his feelings.    [/quote]

Can I also give you my honest statement?  I adopted my first child (daughter) and gave birth to my second (son) and I don't love my daughter any less than my son. If anything, I am way more bonded to my daughter than to my son at this stage, though he is just a baby so I haven't known him as long.  I've asked my husband if he feels differently and he also agrees with me.  I don't doubt that there are some people (like the father who responded) who do feel differently about their children, but please be assured that it's also VERY possible to feel exactly the same about your children too.  I imagine there are parents who treat and love their bio children differently as well.[/quote]

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