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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you located close enough to your XW and the kids' school to take them sometimes during the school week?  If you are, then offer to take one or both kids for a week at a time instead of a weekend and see if she just needs a break.  Even if she only gets a break once or twice a year, it may reduce her stress enough that she can get back to an even keel when parenting.  Sometimes we all just need a break.[/quote]

I think this is absolute, utter bullshit. If the genders were reversed in this situation everyone would be screaming to high heaven that the husband is abusive. People would be crowing about getting the children out of this situation NOW. But because it's a woman (and I'm a woman by the way) people are like "oh she just needs a break." No. She is abusive and manipulative. She does not deserve custody. She doesn't deserve anything, in my opinion, acting and using the situation this way. I'm sorry I don't really have advice. I do think you should have custody but if you don't have the means to pursue it, I don't know what to tell you. [/quote]

+1 to all this.  My mother was (is) an emotionally manipulative child in many many ways, and she pulled this kind of shit all.the.time.  The minute we were given the opportunity, we were all "oh, don't throw me in that briar patch brer fox".  We got away from her just as fast as we could.  Dad was and is kind of...emotionally stunted (Autism spectrum?), but was at least consistent.  Life living with him was predictable and not a constant exercise in being emotionally castrated.  Using these kinds of threats of abandonment are just guaranteed to leave deep, permanent emotional scars, which might be overcome after a marriage or two and a lot of therapy.  Get your kids out now, as fast as you can.[/quote]

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