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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The thing that cheated on spouses need to understand is you can't stay in the marriage and also never let go of the anger and resentment. It's normal if that's how you feel and you can't get past it but you don't get to tell your spouse you want to stay married and then punish them in perpetuity. Committing to the marriage means assessing your own part in the situation and also WORKING to move past the incident so you can build a new marriage. It doesn't mean trapping someone into a relationship where they're never ever forgiven and are forever punished. [/quote]

I do not believe any cheated upon spouse who has a partner who is truly remorseful and constantly working on earning back trust behaves this way. What the cheater is concerned with is not feeling guilty anymore, not making their partner feel loved and secure. They just want things to go back to normal without doing the hard work to make it right. Unfortunately that hard work doesn't feed their egos and requires selflessness. Not a cheater's strong suit.[/quote]

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