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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - as with the lying I am worried that my child will develop a poor character[/quote]

Don't worry about that.  My sister lied about small things all the time, she is an upstanding surgeon, never lies, most honest Dr. you can meet.  She lied because our parents were too strict and she was a very social and outgoing person, and they would never let her do anything. It means nothing lying at 12. I never lied, ever, and I still don't, could have spared myself some tough situations if I fibbed just a bit here and there.[/quote]

You and your sister had the same parents, yet only your sister lied.

To me, this underscores the point that some kids lie for reasons unrelated to parents having unreasonable expectations. There are different things going on with different kids.[/quote]

Yes, we have the same parents, but we are not the same person.  I am an introvert, who didn't care about going out and meeting in the park to play at 12, 13, etc but she did.  My parents were extremely strict about it, I even covered for my sister. I am also older, and that has quite a bit to do with it too.  They piled up the pressure on me for being responsible for my 2 years younger sister.  When she needed anything, she would ask me and then I would ask mom or dad because she was scared. She also cared more about clothes and fashion, and they, in so many ways, were unfair to her about it. Since I didn't care then then she didn't need anything but sneakers and jeans too and they found everything she wanted unreasonable. So yes, same parents, different expectation and different kids. They were also unfair to me about grades, if she got a grade that wasn't an A, it was ok, since she was immature, if I got a B, I got punished because I should do better.[/quote]

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