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Reply to "Three months after I discover he cheated and this is what he says "
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[quote=Anonymous]It is true that the most important thing in your future relationship with him, if you want one, is your ability to forgive. Not condone, not forget, but forgive. He has no business asking that question, but the bottom line is forgiveness needs to happen. But forgiveness is for YOU. It's about you letting go of the rage and getting to a better place. It is not for him, and certainly not for him to ask about. I was cheated on. Forgiveness took a long time, I'd say in all honestly it took 18 months, so you are nowhere there yet. But I understood that he knew he was wrong and appreciated the pain he had caused, and ultimately I was able to forgive. There are times, deep down, where the pain or hurt resurfaces via some sort of trigger, but we are in a waaaaaaayyy better place than we were in the 3-4 years leading up to the affair. But: I still loved him, and you say you hate him, so I can't help you there. [/quote]
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