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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^Me again. And I'm guilty of the asking 11x to do something thing. But I notice, when it gets that far, it doesn't mean she's not paying attention, it means I'M not paying attention. I'm asking her while multitasking, or I'm feeling tired/lazy and don't want to actually enforce the consequences, etc, etc.[/quote]

Yes I am stretched thin and maybe I don't handle discipline well - good point- but I can say she doesn't seem to be phased by punishment - part of the frustration.
    If she doesn't put her shoes away, what should I do? If she doesn't take her shower after asking her three times ( last night's fight) what do I do? Yelling or taking away iPad doesn't work-- how do I change her behavior?
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Any attention is better than no attention so she is getting her needs met by not doing things and you reacting.  Be very consistent and stop yelling.  No more punishments.  Have her earn things like iPad for good behavior.  She can have 30 minutes at night if she does what she is asked, within reason that day.  You are making everything negative and that is the only attention she gets.  Stop multitasking and make her your priority.  You can't feel lazy or tired when you have three kids.  You have to deal with it and make it work.  You also need to set aside 10-15 minutes before bed or sometime where she gets your undivided attention.[/quote]

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