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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm equally concerned about the 15 year old sharing a bed with her mother. With that and the hygiene issues, thus screams mental health problem. This is a hard one. Maybe start with a school counselor?[/quote]

OP, this sounds a lot like my aunt and male cousin when I was a kid.  No dad around, my aunt held a very good job, made tons of money, clung onto her son like a koala bear, he never grew up, never matured, never got independent, was always a child in the head, never had friends, never pushed to shave, bath, wash his hair, etc., if he didn't want to, he was her baby, and they slept in the same bed.  Even when he was 17 and over 6 ft tall.  it stopped when my cousin was arrested himself for child abuse and put in jail.  Now I am still on the fence as to whether my aunt abused him sexually, although it wouldn't surprise me if she had, but at the same time it wouldn't super surprise me if she didn't.  What she did do was totally fuck him up in the head, he was her entire world, she never parented him or got him ready for the next step in life to grow up. I'm shocked he was ever potty trained.  Since his father left the family, he had no male role model, my aunt never dated anyone else, and she kjust kept the two of them in this cocoon of life.  He never had a chance at being remotely normal. None.

I don't know if someone abused him, although with the absent father, sad home life and lack of friends made him a perfect target for a Sandusky type, or whether his sexuality and maturity were so stunted (like that Duggar boy) that he acted out his sexuality in an inappropriate way, but I do think he did some weird and bad stuff to some kids and I am glad he was caught and is in jail.  But it may have all been preventable, if my parents or someone else really stood up to my aunt and said you can't do this to this kid.  You need help, you need help now, and if you don't get it you leave us no choice but to call CPS.  It doesn't have to be physical abuse, or no food in the house, or abandoned children left to fend alone to warrant calling CPS.  Your sister is abusing her daughter, and possibly her two nieces in her unhealthy environment.  The bed situation alone is enough to call CPS.  Please do something.  If at the very least, how is this young lady supposed to learn to be independent, live on her own, take care of herself, and live a happy, self sufficient, life.  You think she's learning these life skills now?  If she can't even bath, what chance does she have?[/quote]

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