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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So sorry for you OP. You didn't deserve all this hate.
I hope everything turns out alright for you.
But your husband can't that bad of a guy if he encouraged you to be a SAHM and seems to work hard at taking care of you and your children. You said he is military, so is my DH (army) a lot of times military people come off as abusive in the way they talk and act, but all the ones I know are teddy bears at heart. Maybe he just didn't realize until recently and that his why he is changing - for you. Give him a chance, you probably need his comfort after this thread.[/quote]

I know nothing about OP, or her husband.  He might be a gem, or an abuser, or somewhere in between.  But the idea that you can't be a "bad guy" if you let your wife stay home, or that you can't be a "bad guy" if you're in the military is absurd.  Isolating your spouse by limiting their movements, and exerting control over finances by not allowing her to work is a classic abuser tactic.  Not saying that's happening here, but, if anything, SAHM's are more at risk of abuse because it's harder for them to escape.  And domestic violence is a huge issue in our military.  The fact that many military families move far from their extended family is another thing that can contribute to the isolation of spouses and their vulnerability to continuing abuse.

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