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[quote=Anonymous]I'm an alcoholic in recovery. I have 4 years sober. At the beginning AA was very important. Now I go once a year on my anniversary. So your DH may not need AA as much the longer he is sober. 
You have every right to feel what you're feeling. I fully validate you and hope that your DH can understand how his behavior now is affecting your relationship. 
There are many layers going on here, as there are in any relationship, especially with an addict. I would say that my main priority in my life is staying sober, maybe the same for your DH. I realize all else flows from that. That is your DH's only chance at being a good husband and father. You can support him in that by caring for yourself. Al anon might not be the answer for you (my own DH would never consider it). Find the best way to carve out some time to get your own needs met. A therapist is a good suggestion. Not that you need therapy or need "to change", but one person in a couple getting sober has enormous consequences on the whole system, and things get harder before they get better. So you need to find a way to cope. 
If you feel like you're doing all the parenting and your DH isn't there for you, couples counseling could help (we did it.)
You aren't alone or wrong to feel this way. Best wishes to you and your DH. 
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