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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel for you OP.  I know this doesn't help you now, but for others, I think that making the pregnancy/baby thing a team effort from square one helps.  [b]My husband and I were at every OBGYN appointment TOGETHER.  Just because it wasn't HIS body doesn't mean that he shouldn't have to take time off of work etc to.  It is HIS kid.  Thank goodness he wanted to be there.  Also, after the baby was born, we both always go to every doctor's appointment.  [/b]Also, we stayed on the same schedule.  Got up together, went to bed together, both got up when the baby woke up at night.  We also did not have a division of duties because everything was both of our duties.  This and formula feeding (because it made it equal) made the first year and especially first weeks the best time in our marriage not the hardest.  It really made us closer.  This makes me want to go hug my husband now![/quote]

Nice in theory, but unrealistic for many families.[/quote]

How so?  This worked well for my family too.  Just think of it as appointments that you both need to attend.  If your husband was the one that was pregnant he would have to make it work to attend.  Just think that way.[/quote]

NP here.  Meh, I agree in principle, but in practice it makes sense for us to divide and conquer.  He went to all of the big appointments, but not the routine check ins.  Now that the baby's here, he does go to all of her medical appointments, and is on call for mid-day daycare pickup.  His job is busier, but more flexible with telework than mine.  At night too, we rotated who got up.  Why would two people be awake when only one can be with the baby?  That sounds like a recipe for sleep-deprivation induced bickering.  You seem pretty intent on making things equal (formula feeding because it made it equal), which is great for you, but not necessarily the only way to do things.
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