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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds condescending.  If someone made any comments like PP have said, I'd be very upset and uncomfortable.[/quote]

Not PP. Please explain why. I have multiples who don't have special needs and I often get comments that I'm doing a good job and I often reach out to parents who I see may be in a challenging situation and give them a smile or an encouraging word. How is this condescending? I don't want to make people feel bad.[/quote]

Because you are only saying it as the child has SN.  I would not change my parenting and still parent the same either way regardless of SN but I would not want someone approaching me saying a comment that was clearly related to the SN.  People are trying to be friendly.  If you want to be friendly for a friendship find another opening line.[/quote]

NP here, but I've gone up to parents and said they are doing a good job (or whatever) when they have managed a tricky situation.  I saw a mom with a kid having a tantrum and she managed to navigate the situation and I told her she handled it well.

I think as parents (neurotypical and SN) we all could use some validation from time to time.

[b]If as SN parents [/b]-  you guys would prefer that we ignore your parenting, I'd like to know that too.[/quote]
Like any group, people will vary.  As you can see from this thread, some will say thank you and others will feel insulted or irritated.  Also sometimes those special needs are invisible, so I'm not sure this dichotomy makes sense anyway.  [/quote]

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