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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think that everybody is trying to make the mother feel better.  To be honest the reason the children behave better with the nanny is because she is consistent with discipline.  Parents dismiss a lot of whining and bad behavior where the nanny will say no, reason, or give the child a time out.  If parents took more time out to say no to the whining and bad behavior it would be consistent all around![/quote]

Nanny here.

This.[/quote]

Stay at home mom here with older kids/teens who had REALLY pleasant toddlers.

Don't you other moms read posts like this and just think how you can't wait for the childless nannies like this have their own kids?

A lot of it is age OP. A lot is personality. A lot is the kid letting it all out with the person she loves the most.

Some of it is consistency, yes, but that is a small factor amoung many bigger factors.[/quote]

Oh for the love of Pete. It has nothing to do with her letting it all out with the person she loves the most. Please.
Her nanny won't tolerate that behavior. That's it. Period. End of story.  I was a childless nanny for 10 years.  I'm also a mother.  My charges never behaved that way and my kids certainly don't.  The reason? I'm very clear about my expectations and what the consequences of not following them will be.  I then follow through.  [/quote]

It wouldn't be a dcum parenting thread without the perfect, know it all sharing her expertise  :roll:

It is that kid letting it out where she feels safe...I guess your kids don't feel safe enough to ever have a meltdown around you.[/quote]

There it is.  You don't agree with me, so you assume my children don't feel safe?  Not at all.  They're happy, silly, well-adjusted little guys.  One could argue that children without structure, stability and discipline feel unsafe.  My children know what to expect.  They know who their parent is and because of that, they can look to me for love and guidance. Children of those who don't discipline their child or have basic boundaries and consequences could feel unsure, unsettled and unsure of who is in charge of their safety and well-being.  Using your logic, that could also be true.[/quote]

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