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[quote=ThatBetch][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What about the mental health  of mom? Her quality of life? Should she be a miserable mom in an unhappy marriage for the sake of a child?  [/quote]

Yes. You sacrifice for your children. That's what you do.

[quote=Anonymous]You do realize this leads to depression and anxiety hence the reason some many couples around here are on meds.  [/quote]
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Divorce is far more devastating for the mental health of the child, leading to lifelong depression and anxiety[/b].[/quote]

Oh stop with this nonsense. Yes, obviously, a contentious divorce and parents who use their kid(s) as pawns in their relationship chess can have devastating effects on a child. But so can watching their parents try and fail to coexist in a contentious, loveless marriage of daily strife. I got my "lifelong depression and anxiety" (which is perfectly manageable thanks to some solid counseling) from the latter, so don't think OP is doing the kid a favor by "sacrificing" her happiness, sanity, and quality of life.

OP, it's not your job to convince your partner. It's your job to make a decision. If you file for a divorce, he's not left with much choice. Yes, he may drag his feet and make a scene about it, but that's the sort of variable you need to factor into your decision. Split. Separate. Leave, if that's what your gut is saying. Sometimes, that's the wake-up call that shifts things enough to make them functional again. Sometimes, it's the first formal step toward a divorce.

But the question isn't "is it worth it to convince partner..." it's "Is it time to leave?" If it is, GTFO.[/quote]

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