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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]3 dates??!!

1) Dont overthink this - it probably wont make it to 30 dates

2) But, keep your eyes open for other hes just not that into you clues[/quote]

OP here. He had 3 or 4 dates with her they slept together. We had gone on two dates by then. He said he realized he liked me too much when we had our third date and told her he wasn't interested. We have been dating now for two months ( roughly 10 dates) and he's now asking to become more serious. [/quote]

I honestly don't see the problem unless you slept with him on date 1 or 2 and feel he had sex with her after he had sex with you.  Technically speaking if that is the case you didn't have an exclusive relationship he wouldn't be in the wrong but I could see it still stinging.

Assuming you weren't sleeping with him then, the way I see it, he met you and got to know you and made a decision fairly quickly not to string along another woman that he was casually dating.  He broke it off with her, focused on the relationship with you.  After getting to know you for two months he straightforwardly asked you to date exclusively.  He admitted that he stopped dating someone he was sleeping with early on in your dating - maybe too much honestly. But it wasn't like he was trying to game the system and was sleeping with her for 2 months because you guys were "not exclusive" and only planned to stop sleeping with her once you agreed to be exclusive.  Unless this is one of those tactics where he appears to be overly honest to gain your trust to cover up being really sleazy I honestly don't see this as an issue.  I don't expect a guy to meet me once and forsake all others because I could be the one when in reality we haven't passed the period where you can ghost and really don't owe an explanation (i.e. The first few dates). I do like to see integrity that  you don't sleep with more than one person in the same time period unless everyone involved is cool with it, you don't have a girlfriend or wife and trying to date other people unless it is an open relationship and again everyone knows upfront and is cool with it, and you don't string someone along when you know there isn't a future with them.  As far as I see the guy you are dating has been pretty above board.[/quote]

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