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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do NOT give your children any clue that you rely on them emotionally. It's too much of a burden for a child.

Your 9-year-old doesn't "get" you because he's not an adult. He doesn't get adult needs and problems. Don't project your needs onto him just because he's considerate. [/quote]

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Agreed. Your kid is not your friend or confidant. He's not there to " get you".

This isn't about hiding emotions from kids or any of that nonsense some posters are trying to claim. It's emotionally unhealthy and you need to stop it OP. I think individual and marital counseling is in order here right away before you mess up your kid.[/quote]

OP here.  Please  Go Away.   You are projecting your own views onto my post.  Bugger off.  No one said anything about doing all that crap.  I am a psychotherapist and am delighted at how empathetic and giving my child is. He is my only child.  So I don't know what others might experience.  Don't hate if your child isn't this way.  [/quote]

NP Here...

I believe that the PP is making a valid point. I've seen women use their kids as their confidant because the child "gets them." The parent shares all sorts of inappropriate things which put the child is a tough spot. While OP may not have done this yet, its something she should be mindful up. I'm sure OP is the kind of good parent that will surely admit she sees the danger rather than being the sort of bad parent who will not admit that this very real danger does exist. Right?[/quote]

If you are a psychotherapist you would be supporting healthy boundaries and working on communication with your DH. I've also never heard a therapist say "don't hate."

My aunt had a very weird and unhealthy relationship with her son. He was expected to be the grownup and her confidant. That's an extreme example of course, but comparing your DH to your kid isn't appropriate.

Appropriate: "I'm proud of my son's deep empathy towards me and others."
Not appropriate "My son gets me more than DH."[/quote]

+1.

If you're trained in psychology then you know that a 9-year-old lacks the emotional and cognitive sophistication to understand an adult. This isn't an opinion. It's neuroscience.

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