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[quote=Anonymous]As someone who's experienced it before, absolutely not. Regardless of the situation – kids/no kids, type of abuse, duration, financial/social status, support/help, they all don't matter. There are a billion reasons why women (or men for that matter) stay, all of them are legitimate and all of them make leaving REALLY hard. Getting back the agency you lost is REALLY hard. The one being abused is the victim and nothing justifies what is being done to her, whether she "allows it" or not. Victim-blaming makes my blood boil.

That being said, I DO judge myself. Looking back, it was all so obvious and I want to kick myself for not figuring it out earlier. I found my way out too late and I'm ashamed by the marks I've allowed myself to get because of if. It's funny how I'd never tolerate other people telling a victim what I often tell myself. Double standards stemming from the abuse itself, but also from the reactions of my family, I guess. I really internalized their downplaying of what I went through and blaming me for it. Therapy has helped me see it for what it is and it's one more reason why I am so sensitive to others being victim-blamed. It sticks with you. [/quote]

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