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[quote=Anonymous]And, yes, when they say mean things about your clothing, how they parent, what you wore to dinner, etc - say quietly - please do not speak to me that way.  And then very soon after that, when you have time without your children there, explain it "I'm not going to allow you to speak to me, husband or children that way.  If you do it then we will leave.  It's rude and unnecessary. I'm an adult.  Find something nice to say or say nothing.

And so later that night, WHEN they say something, just say "Remember, you aren't going to speak to him/her/me that way?   And WHEN they do it again, or sass you for it, then leave.  Calmly stand up mid-dinner, gather husband and children and leave.  Again, do NOT STORM OUT, just say "ok, kids, it's time to go, say bye to Nanna and Gramps, bye everyone, we'll see you at the house." and drive home.  They can follow in a taxi or uber.

(do this after speaking with husband and agreeing - you can't have him trying to keep you there.  also do it if your kids aren't mid-food.  do it after they are done or before the food arrives so you can get food somewhere else.

You'll only need to do this once.  Or twice.

We train people how to treat us.  (Yup, Oprah said something like this, but I think she's quoting Maya Angelou... anyway, I remember this quote often)[/quote]

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