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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP with one more update. He says he is leaving tonight and is going away "for a while." In the past I probably would have compromised my position and eaten my words and told him he should stay, but tonight I just said fine. He went on and on about how this time would be different and he'll change and he feels worse than I could. I'm so mad- I feel like I'm left looking like the bad guy who won't compromise while also having to handle house/baby/dog while he gets out of it all and gets to go feel sorry for himself. [/quote]

Interesting how it's all about him. And that's air-quotes "interesting".

And you're absolutely right that he bailed and left you holding the bag. Don't believe for a second that's unintentional on his part. This is designed to punish you.

So don't let it. If someone wants to walk out of your life, let them walk. And if/when he decides to come back, use that opportunity to set some better boundaries and put a stop to this nonsense.

If you don't actively reject this behavior, you're enabling it. Therapy for you (re: why you'd stay with someone like this, play the role of doormat and allow this mess to continue) is a must.[/quote]

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