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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm more upset about the sexual abuse and want him to seek therapy to deal with that trauma.[/quote]
Believe it or not, it is possible for someone to get over something and move on.  What exactly would he be "dealing with" all these years later?  [/quote]

If he has not gone to therapy for the abuse... He had not "gotten over" the abuse.

He should deal with the feelings he has about being abused, how it negatively affects him now and how he can change those behaviors.

OP has not described "issues" there may be none right now. Often having kids triggers the PTSD of CSA.

Men generally think they can "handle it" and eventually self destruct.[/quote]

It is possible to move past things without therapy - just like some people need therapy to deal with grief and others don't, not everyone needs therapy for sexual abuse. [/quote]

Maybe, but male CSA victims have a huge rate of failed relationships and alcoholism. When in therapy most don't put 2+2 together and understand their childhood experience is affecting their adult life. Most report that they "dealt with it" " put it behind them" "rarely think of it"... So CSA victims can't really self report if they need therapy or not.

The master/slave need in every romantic relationship is a red flag.

Its Russian roulette being in a relationship with CSA victim who never sought professional help, expect rough seas ahead.[/quote]

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