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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In ancient times, polygamist systems ruled. One powerful man had many wives. Lower class men were locked out of the system, had short, miserable lives, and relied on opportunistic rape for reproduction, if they reproduced at all.

This is the system that feminists want to return to?[/quote]

Actually, hunter gatherer societies- which is what humans were for hundreds of thousands of years, before the rise of agriculture 12,000 years ago- tend to have monogamous marriage and were very egalitarian. In modern hunter gatherer tribes women are seen as equals, can own land and resources, have positions of leadership, and can choose their mates. Although they have monogamous marriages, both men and women are permitted to have sex with other people.

If there's any conclusion to be drawn from looking at human sexual and marriage behavior, it's that there is quite a bit of plasticity and variability, and no rules set in stone. Some people want monogamy and some don't; both are normal sexual behavior. The problem is when people lie and deceive their partners. If you want to have sex with other people, let your partner know so they can decide if they want to continue the relationship.

Personally I love being monogamous. Sex with my DH is absolutely delicious and far better than anything I had when I could sleep with whoever I wanted. [/quote]

I feel the same way.  I really don't like spending time one on one with many people at all and am incredibly introverted and DH the same way.  He's is the only person who doesn't drain me when we spend time together and he's the only one I want to be with so for us, monogamy makes total sense.

I have a hard time understanding why my friends that really loved playing the field and dating lots of people then feel they have to settle down with only one person.  It seems to make some of them unhappy and then when some of them cheat, everyone ends up hurt.  I wish "monogamish" or polyamory was more openly accepted in our society rather than herding people who don't want to be monogamous into marriages that then pretty often fail.[/quote]

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