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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am type A and my DH is not.  We have been married 23 years.  I think he wishes he had married somebody less type A.  I think, when we married, he thought I would eventually calm down but of course I have not. That is my nature.  I am happy to let him be who he is.  I always was thinking that I'd just travel by myself and work hard while he relaxed.  But I think he wishes I'd spend a lot more time just vegging with him.  I think he thinks I create too much tension in our family life by trying to juggle too many things.[/quote]

I am a type A and my DH is not. I agree (like any difference between people) there are times we frustrate each other. I wake up at 5:00 am to play tennis matches at 6:00 am three mornings a week and he would love to sleep in until noon and wishes I would snuggle more in the mornings with him. However, I would also say that (like any difference between a couple) it's worth discussing. The critical thing about this kind of difference is whether or not you can impute positive or negative emotions to that difference: I don't think my DH is lazy, I just think he likes to sleep in and I make a point to do that one weekend morning (i.e. not to schedule a tennis match both weekend mornings.) He loves that I'm attractive and we  have a great sex life because of that attraction, so I'd guess he doesn't think I'm "driven" or "ignoring him" or "overscheduling" as much as just that I am more competitive and worry about staying in shape.

Another difference between us is that I like to do things quickly and get them done; he tends to be slower to complete projects. But again as long as we aren't being critical about those differences, just aware or even sometimes that sometimes it's funny.[/quote]

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