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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think I have the best of all worlds.  My male partner and I have been together for 10 years.  We're not married though.  I wanted children and he was ambivalent.  He has older kids and had a vasectomy.  So the kids are all mine even though we raise them together.

For big decisions we discuss what to do but the reality is, I get to make the final decision.  When it was time to get a passport, he didn't need to come.  When it was time to go through Child Find, he was involved but he didn't have to sign anything and really had no say.  It makes scheduling appointments much easier.

I find that it makes life much easier.  Financially, I owned our house before him and before the kids.  I make enough to support me and kids if we ever separate.  I've put away for their college funds and my retirement.[/quote]

Wow. Do you live together? How do you handle the finances now? Do they call him dad?[/quote]

Seriously, wow. You might have the best of both words but your kids sure don't. Enjoy the therapy bills. I'm sure those will be all yours, too. [/quote]

This is the PP you're quoting.  Please feel free to explain the therapy comment.  Why do my kids not have the best of both worlds?

In answer to the other PPs question-- yes they call him dad and he lives with us.  Financially things just sort of work out.  We don't have any set you pay this or I pay this.   We discuss big purchases such as a car but neither of us take on any costs that we can't cover on our own.  For the house he doesn't pay towards the mortgage but he pays for the major repairs such as the roof, siding, Windows, dual zone, kitchen reno -- so it all sort of comes out in the wash.  We are each other's beneficiaries for 401ks and life insurance policies.  My will states that he is their guardian if I die--my family loves him and wouldn't not try and take the kids away from their dad.

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