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[quote=Anonymous]Enjoying somebody's company at work doesn't mean they're a part of your life. Bonding over how much your boss or client sucks isn't the same as being close as people.

I'm middle aged and if I tried to keep up with friends from high school, college and law school plus 10 work places I would never see my family or the friends I've made through neighborhoods or kids' schools.

I've kept some work friends long term but not that many. Maybe 4-6 out of ten jobs, though I'm happy to see others at events.

+1000 to things going on in people's lives, too. Sometimes work transitions are tied to difficult life circumstances. I left a job I loved because of work-family balance when my spouse refused to make good on his promise to share responsibility.  I left another job because a board member sexually harassed me and I couldn't take it anymore, so I took a huge pay cut to get the hell out of there.

When you're dealing with things like that, you have a choice: focus on the things and people that sustain you or try to please people who don't at that point. I'd say goodbye if at all possible but I didn't at the job with the pervy board member. Fortunately the people at work have their own lives too and can go home and enjoy them. [/quote]

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