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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't you think it's overrated? I mean, with an average grandparent who is kind of out of touch with reality a little? I am not talking about obvious crazies, neither am I talking about fun, active, and caring grandparents. I am talking about[b] a mediocre grandparent who is more interested in sitting on the couch helping themselves to food in the fridge talking about random stuff and giving unsolicited advice than in actually hanging out with their grandkids[/b], having meaningful interactions with them?
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My DS has a grandpa like this.  We respect the grandpa, see him semi-regularly, treat him with kindness and always speak well of him.  If he did not exist, it wouldn't change DS's life one iota.[/quote]
My grandmother had a long-time boyfriend, Joe (they didn't marry for social security or estate planning reasons).  Joe sat on the couch.  He was a really big guy, and at least partially blind and it was rare for us to see Joe out of his chair.  Joe didn't talk much.  I really liked Joe.  If you asked, he could recite all the presidents and the vice-presidents in order which impressed the heck out of kid-me.  He talked about stuff that was probably boring to most, but I liked it.  Every once in a while he'd give me a shiny quarter.  I bet my parents never noticed that I liked the guy.  Off-topic, but when my grandmother who owned the house died, poor Joe had to go to a home because his kids didn't want to take care of him and we never saw Joe again.  I'm not sure our family even knew where he ended up; it was sad.  I still think about Joe from time to time.  He was just a nice man.  So, don't assume what your kids think or how they perceive the interactions.[/quote]

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