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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You guys are all very astute. The sib is my brother, and I do know that my parents did go into this not wanting to impose - but still, this seems too far in the other direction.

My SIL is awesome, and she and my parents get along really well. She'd have been clear if she needed space, or didn't want them around too much (she's a good communicator and has clear boundaries) and[b] I am sure she didn't say that to them.[/b]

I really don't know what it is. When I spoke with my mom about it, she didn't say that she was trying to give them space, or didn't like the NICU, or anything like that. She just said she was busy.

I don't think my sib and I will be too busy for our parents when they get older and need our help. We are all close, and have good relationships, which is part of why this one thing seems so odd to me.

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You don't, actually, know what she said to them.  If she's such a great communicator, she might have told your parents that it's silly for them to come often while the baby is in the NICU, that she'll let them know if there's anything they can do to help, etc.  Maybe they talked about it before the baby was even born.  If they get along well, and are able to communicate clearly, and no one is telling you that they are unhappy with the situation, why do you assume there is something wrong with it?

I mean, why are you questioning your mom on how often she's visiting?  You're way over-invested in this.  The baby has been alive for less than a week, and already you think your parents aren't visiting enough.  God help them if you have a kid.[/quote]

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