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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As long as you remember that it's just luck.  The worst are parents who brag about the school that their kid is going to, like it's an accomplishment.  We totally struck out two years running, but I'm really okay with that--we're happy with the PK program at our kid's daycare, confident that she is acquiring the skills she will need in kindergarten, and see no reason to begrudge someone else their good luck at getting a spot at a school they are excited about.  Don't act like you're superior, or that you feel so sorry for your friends who didn't do so well, like their kids are screwed or something.  The nicest thing you could say to people who wanted to get into the school you got into is to express regret that your kids won't be classmates and wish them luck in the next go-round.

People here are so obsessed about schools, when the fact is, most kids of people on these boards are already ahead of the game:  they have a stable and safe home, and their parents are well-educated, read to them and talk to them, take them to libraries and museums, and value their education.  Unless their school is unsafe or truly failing, they will be fine.  People are freaking out about things on the margin.

Yes, I want my kid to get an excellent education, but I don't think that means she has to go to the perfect or "best" school.  [/quote]

My daughter won and got into a school that "white people like."  It a nice school and it's dual language, but it also lacks some of the things that our neighborhood school has (plenty of room for specials, a separate gym so kids can have an active indoor recess when weather is bad, a stage.  I feel really uncomfortable when friends/neighbors act like we are the luckiest family in the world, because a lot of the love for the charter/hate for the neighborhood school seems tied to the racial demographics of each.  For me, accepting the lottery slot wasn't about the lottery school being the best school ever, it's just that this is our only chance to try the charter, while we can always go back to our neighborhood school.  If we had equal access to both schools, I would probably start her at the neighborhood school.[/quote]

I don't mean this in a mean way -- I can certainly see where you are coming from. But I would suggest that if you kind of like the charter you're accepting, don't pull your daughter out to go back to the neighborhood school. I worry that kind of change one year to the next will be tough on kids. it's like we're all shaving for percentages, and they're in the first grade, or PreK. We're also in a neighborhood dcps school that is good enough, not perfect, and decided NOT to play the lottery this time. I wish more people would settle for good enough and help make all schools great. [/quote]

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