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[quote=Anonymous]I think usually the parents have overly high expectations.  Managing children across multiple households is always going to be difficult and stressful.  Yes, even if everyone is "amicable", it's still a ton of work.

It isn't very fun to go through a divorce and then be also expected to accommodate a new adult and new siblings.   Too many people, too many schedules, too many opinions and feeeeeeelings.  I like that my dad's wife takes care of him as he's getting old, but I think I've contributed quite enough in just putting up with joint custody etc.  I don't feel obligated to spend time with her or help make their marriage work, or pretend that I'm happy with the way things turned out.  None of this was my idea.  And I don't like her kids, they are annoying.

As for you, OP, you have four children.  That is why you are stressed.  Why does your DH want you to do more things together?  Does he have divorce guilt?  Or does he think his kids ought to like you because he likes you?  It doesn't work that way.  They didn't choose you and if they don't want to spend time with you and your children, nothing good will come of forcing it. [/quote]

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