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[quote=Anonymous]OP, it sounds like your DH just needs to be more realistic about teenagers.  They don't necessarily want a lot of family time, no matter what kind of family it is.  Maybe he could try spending time with them one-on-one, sometimes teenagers respond well to that.

Personally, having seen my mom and her husband go through all the hassles of trying (and failing) to blend us, I wouldn't choose to become a step-parent myself.  It just seems like a lot of effort for dubious return.  Growing up, there were basically three households that had to coordinate schedules and finances.  It was too hard logistically, even when people got along well there was too much compromise, and an emergency or problem in one household would disrupt the others, so life was just chronically unstable.  My mom isn't even that happy in her second marriage anyway.

Meanwhile, my dad remarried when I was in my 30s, and is now implying that I should care for his wife after he passes on.  Which I'm not going to do-- I appreciate that she takes care of him, but she isn't a parent to me, in fact I barely know her, and it's not my fault that her son is irresponsible and doesn't help her.  Dealing with aging divorced parents is bad enough already without having to care for four old people instead of just two.  So I have distanced myself from his wife to make that clear.[/quote]

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