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[quote=Anonymous][quote]This is OP. We do have problems and saw a therapist 4 times. He did not want to follow through with advice/exercises so nothing came out of counseling. Cannot remember last time we had sex because I am in bed by 11 and he goes to bed around 2-3 am, most nights falling asleep in front of the TV on the couch. I have initiated and made overtures but he is rarely interested. We have discussed lack of intimacy many times. There is no resolution in sight. He sees intimacy as work and a hassle. I think he is escaping into virtual reality because it is easier. Most problems in our marriage stem from his incredible laziness and my short fuse and tolerance for said laziness. Despite problems I never contemplated a divorce because we have kids, in general get along well, and have built a comfortable life together.[/quote]

OP, real talk time: [b]You don't "get along well".[/b] Not in general, not on important areas of your life specifically. [b]Your life together isn't "comfortable".[/b] Your life sounds like a charred hellscape to anyone with a healthy, happy, functional marriage.

You are lying to yourself if you think this is 'mostly okay' or '80% of the way to good' or whatever. Your marriage is in extreme duress. Either your husband is going to be interested in saving it or he isn't, but you need to make it clear that you may be ending up at the point where divorce feels real, or where if you didn't have kids it would feel like an obvious choice.[/quote]

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