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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This could be my family and my husband's family.  My husband nearly died and our parents and siblings wanted to know nothing about it.  I don't think it was because they're uncaring, I think it was because they're selfish and wanted to know as little as possible so not to mess with their lives.

For example, my FIL wanted to force my SIL to visit her brother when it was clear he might not make it through the night.  I said, great, and did not offer directions to the hospital.  My FIL then, totally humiliated, HAD to ask "what's the name of the hospital?"  I said "don't you think you should know the NAME OF THE HOSPITAL WHEN YOUR ONLY SON IS DYING????" I told him but basically have kept my polite distance ever since.  This was some time ago, but when I was quite ill they pulled the same stunt.  Some people are just garbage.   [/quote]

Forgot to mention that my parents are equally bad.  My mother never came to help me when I was sick until well after her help was needed.  The reason?  She wanted to make a vacation out of the trip to see DC.  Yep.  And when my husband was nearly dying (he's fine now THANK GOODNESS), my father called to berate me for forgetting his birthday.  "There isn't a post office on the way to the hospital?" That is a direct quote.

I just want to say that I'm so sorry OP, but really people can be horrible. Rise above, forgive but do not forget, and be happy you're alive today.  I repeated the mantra "choose happiness and joy" because I did not want to be a bitter person.  I can say that I've never forgotten what my family did to us, but I'm a happy and joyful person today (regardless of what I sound like here- memories are making me upset of course).  Be well OP.[/quote]

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