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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow. Op here and thanks for the enlightening responses. The wash post article was a very interesting read.

It honestly never would have occurred to me that "you eat like a bird" would have been meant as a compliment.  In my house growing up, and in my circles, it would have been the ultimate insult, as eating well and having a good appetite was seen as a desirable trait. My mom almost solely judges people by how well they eat: if they are not picky and eat well, they are a good person.

I guess then, along the same lines that when they constantly talk about how little they eat, or eat only once a day, they must think they are bragging in a way.  But when I hear it, I hear them telling me how poor their eating habits are, and how they describe their eating habits are so far from reality.

It's so annoying though to deal with it constantly. I feel like I'm harassed at meals. Even if I say, don't worry, I can help myself, mil doesn't stop pushing food on me.  WAIT. So does that maybe mean that she expects or wants me to push food on her?  So when I ask if she's hungry and she says no, am I supposed to keep pushing food on her?  So when we host them for meals, does she expect or want me to keep bringing dishes to her like she does to me?  I don't push food on people- I offer once and let it go if refused, or I lay out food and let people eat however much they want. There have been times that my mil has stayed at our house all day, like for 7-8 hours, and not eaten anything because she turned down lunch. I'm someone who can't go more than 4hrs without eating.

Ugh so confusing. Help me understand. [/quote]

Your mom almost solely judging people on how well they eat is every bit as messed up as your MIL's views on food.[/quote]

Bingo. Hope you can see this, OP.[/quote]

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