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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They're being weird because they're weird. Food is complicated for a lot of people. It's something you use to control, it's something that controls you, it's something you use to welcome guests, to feel welcomed as guests, etc. If you  judge others by what they eat, you assume others are judging you on what you eat. It can go on and on.

I'd just consider it amusing and remove myself emotionally from it. It's a mystery not meant to be solved. [/quote]

Best response ever.[/quote]

ITA, OP.  My ILs are weird about food, also.  My IL's come straight from depression era, and carries it with them.  There is never enough food.  The family has decided to pitch in during holidays, bringing food so that when MIL insists on hosting, there is no longer a free for all at the table.  It was bad.  During vacation, I always pack "back up food" for DC and DH, in addition to normal food, so that they won't be left without (DH attends without me, at my request).

To say food is one of many "elephants in the room" for the ILs is an understatement; as they would never talk about it, and certainly never address it.  They are definitely ashamed of food, sadly.  In my family, food is part of the celebration, so it is two extremes.

My advice is to do food your way when they are at your house, and don't expect anything from the IL's at their house.  Bring your own, if you have to. [/quote]

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